You’re smart, hardworking, and a great mom! You’re resilient and proud of how you’ve pushed yourself through hard times, including your divorce. And…now, you find yourself thinking, “What’s next? What will the second half of my life bring?”
SO, LET’S JUST STOP RIGHT THERE!
Do not ask, “What will life bring?” It’s the WRONG question.
The RIGHT question is: “What do I want my life to look like?”
When you ask a better question, you get a better answer.
Think about it…
When you ask, “What will life bring?” you’ll find that your mind is not focused. It’s flashing many different images, some happy and some not very happy.
On the other hand, when you ask yourself, “What do I want my life to be?” you immediately get a more centered feeling in your gut. Your mind is more focused and there is just one or two dominant images that you see. Also, in these images you are happy, successful, confident, and content.
It’s similar with your “to do” list.
Let’s say it’s Saturday morning. You have the day in front of you and you’re about to write your “to do” list. So…are you asking yourself, “What do I have to do today?” But, then don’t feel very motivated as you write (and picture yourself doing):
- food shopping
- walk dog
Well, no one would be motivated with that list! The BETTER question to ask is, “What do I want to do today?” With this question, you start seeing yourself doing fun, pleasurable things and may write down items, such as:
- have lunch with my daughter
- go hiking by the lake
- take a drive to the farmstand and get fresh donuts
When you asked a better question, you got a better answer! A better result!
You’re now excited and looking forward to your day! The day YOU designed! And…the truth is: You absolutely can design the rest of your life! It all starts with your focus.